Give Thanks for Mediating Your Divorce
As Thanksgiving draws near, couples who have mediated their divorce have a lot to be thankful for:
- You can spend Thanksgiving with your children in a way that you and your ex agreed upon, not according to a schedule arbitrarily set by a judge:
- You can split the actual day, so you each have Thanksgiving with the children
- Divide the weekend
- Alternate years so you each are with your children every other year
- OR YES—you avoided an ugly court battle and have an amicable enough divorce that you are able to spend Thanksgiving together, as divorced parents, with your children.
- You saved money:
- You didn’t pay two separate lawyers’ retainers
- You didn’t pay two separate lawyers to fight in court
- For a fraction of the cost, you resolved your differences by using a neutral mediator, who charged only one fee for you both.
- SO YES – take a few moments and rejoice, even buy yourself or your children a Thanksgiving gift to acknowledge the extra money your family didn’t give away as legal fees.
- You didn’t have to use sick days or vacation days to appear in court:
- The divorce mediation was based upon your schedule,
- You and your ex conveniently scheduled mediations before, or after work
- Divorce Mediation means never having to step into a courtroom
- You lost no wages and you never angered your boss!
- SO YES– treat yourself to that personal day you deserve!
- You can still peacefully communicate with your ex—and when you have children this is invaluable.
- Your mediators helped you devise the most effective ways to communicate with your ex- whether it’s via text, email, phone call or in-person.
- Your children are benefitting: they don’t see you and your ex fight, call each other names, and you don’t miss important school events due to a communication breakdown with your ex.
Thanksgiving can be a stressful holiday in the best of times. Besides for the big turkey, and fabulous food, often big family dramas play out, with parents, cousins, siblings, aunts and Ray Ban outlet uncles all being part of the stew!! So when that nosy aunt corners you, to offer her concerns about how your kids are faring during your divorce, you can say proudly, “I mediated my divorce and the children and I are doing great. Thanks.”