Although we are New York State licensed attorneys, as mediators we do not represent either of you in that capacity nor do we give you legal advice. If you choose to have us prepare an agreement, we advise each of you to consult an attorney to review it. This ensures that you have a full understanding of your individual legal rights and responsibilities before signing the agreement, which then becomes legally enforceable.
You don’t have to get along with your partner to reach an agreement. As trained mediators, we guide discussions and reduce tensions.
We’re here to help you:
- Define the issues that are most important
- Focus on issues even when emotions run high
- Identify solutions you hadn’t considered
- Devise ways for the two of you to communicate more effectively
If you reach terms that are acceptable to you both, you can choose to have us draft an agreement that reflects those terms. This agreement can be used as a basis for filing your divorce papers.
No. Mediators don’t try reuniting you. They focus solely on making your separation as successful as possible.
Your children are your biggest concern now and as you continue to co-parent after the divorce. With mediation you learn ways to avoid putting your children in the middle of your conflict.
As trained mediators, we help you:
- Resolve custody and child support issues
- Devise a parenting plan covering weekly visitation, holidays and vacations
- Decide how you’ll discuss issues concerning the children after the divorce
With divorce mediation you, not the courts and judges, decide what’s best for your children. The positive effect on your children is tremendous. When they see you cooperating as parents, you’re imparting a valuable life lesson – that conflict can be dealt with in a mature, productive way. And research shows that when parents mediate, they both have a better long-term relationship with their children.
Mediation is not appropriate for couples with a history of repeated physical violence. There also may be other extraordinary circumstances that rule out mediation.
No. There are two further steps to an uncontested divorce:
- After you’ve resolved financial, child support and custody issues, you can decide to have the mediators execute an agreement detailing the terms you’ve agreed upon.
- The agreement becomes incorporated into uncontested divorce papers that are filed with the court. Since October 2010, uncontested, or no-fault divorce, is legal in New York State.
No-Fault grounds: A party need only allege that there have been irreconcilable differences for a period of at least six months before filing.
If you file for an uncontested divorce, neither of you has to appear in court.
If you feel the mediation is not successful, you are under no obligation to continue. You may choose to hire attorneys and litigate your divorce.
Divorce Mediation is series of conversations, guided by a mediator, that you and your spouse have to negotiate all the terms of your divorce, separation or the dissolution of your domestic partnership. You and your partner work out what you want in your divorce agreement, deciding on terms you both think are fair.
As neutral mediators, we don’t take sides in your negotiations. Instead, we keep your conversations productive, making sure you resolve all the issues: finances, maintenance, property, child custody and child support – and any other sticking points.
In a traditional divorce, a couple has to hire two separate attorneys and pay each a retainer. In divorce mediation, there is only one fee for both of you and no retainer. Payments are made at the end of each mediation session, which means your fees have all been paid when your mediation is completed.
Divorce mediations are finished much more quickly than traditional divorces, which often drag on for years, resulting in large legal fees. On average, the entire mediation process is usually completed in 4-8 sessions.