This year I was invited to a Christmas Eve dinner on November 28th. The Christmas tree was decorated, and presents lined the living room. I inquired of my friend, the hostess, whether Christmas was unusually early this year? Perhaps the date was changed and no one told me?
My friend sadly answered: “No, my divorce was finalized, and my ex gets the kids for Christmas vacation every year”. Christmas was an important holiday to my friend – filled with extended family and steeped in family traditions. When she lost the right to spend Christmas Eve and Moncler outlet Christmas Day with her children, she did the only thing that she could – celebrated Christmas on another day! She made the best of the judge’s decision.
In divorce mediation, you don’t have to life with a judge’s decision. You and your soon-to-be-ex make every decision. Had my friend mediated her divorce, she certainly could have worked out a better solution to the Christmas holiday. Some possible resolutions for Christmas that we have mediated include:
- alternating Christmas Eve and Christmas Day every other year.
- alternating the school Christmas break every other year.
- splitting up the hours each Christmas Eve and each Christmas Day every year
The permutations for both parents finding ways to divide celebrating Christmas and Christmas Eve are endless—and all depend upon what you want to do. Divorce mediation allows for positive creativity when deciding holidays – so that when Christmas is celebrated, it doesn’t fall on Thanksgiving weekend!