Divorce and Holidays
“It’s a Family Affair,” sang Sly and the Family Stone. Repeatedly during divorce mediation we’re reminded of this fact.
When two people are divorcing, it doesn’t just affect the immediate family. Two extended families are pulled apart: grandparents, cousins, even aunts and uncles. Although your mom and dad may no longer be the official in-laws, your children still have paternal and maternal grandparents.
In divorce mediation, we recognize the role of the extended family in your children’s lives. We discuss the family traditions that have been important in the past and ways to preserve them for your children in the future.
For example: How do you handle the annual July 4th barbeque, where your soon-to-be ex-brother-in-law always burns the hamburgers but your kids had a ball with their cousins from both sides?
Another important issue discussed in mediation is the NFL Jersey from China continuing role that grandparents play in the lives of the divorcing couples’ children. Many times grandparents have cared for their grandchildren during summer months, or babysat for their grandchildren on a regular basis.
We talk about these arrangements in mediation and brainstorm ways divorcing couples can continue to use the support of their families. Grandparents provide consistency and structure for their grandchildrens, especially when these children are caught in the middle of a divorce.
In a contested litigation, the judge does not necessarily have the time to look at the totality of the family dynamics: holidays spent with relatives, family traditions and the essential role that grandparents play. However, in mediation we help you pay attention to these important family dynamics and traditions – as they often provide the fairest answer to questions such as: “Where will the children spend their first post-divorce Thanksgiving?”